It’s been said time and time again, in a world with such prominent social media, people post the positives of their lives but rarely the negatives. This gives everyone else a messed up view that every one else has perfect lives but them — but it’s simply not true.
Now, I’m not saying this because there is anything particularly bad going on for me right now, but there is a lot of uncertainty in the path that I have chosen. I have given up a reliable paycheck and job security in engineering to pursue freelance work and a life of travel. Definitely not without it’s advantages — otherwise who would chose to go this route? But it surely has it’s disadvantages too, and that’s not something that gets talked about as much.
The biggest disadvantage in my eyes is the financial rollercoster. Some weeks are great — nearly as good as otherwise I could be doing as an engineer. Other weeks… well let’s just say that I could make more money walking around a parking lot picking up spare change. Those weeks are tough. They make me question everything I am doing. And sometimes those weeks aren’t actually weeks — they’re days. Sometimes they’re even hours. I have had days where I have flipped back and forth between “I need a ‘real job’” and “No I can make this work” dozens of times.
Not to mention that sometimes things happen at home -some of the things I alluded about in my post from Colombia. Sometimes I seriously reconsider how much time I spend away from home. How little I see my family compared with if I had decided to follow the conventional path. Many of my college friends have moved away from my ‘home,’ and I don’t have many friends there when I am home because I am home so rarely. It sometimes makes for a lonely existence.
I’m not complaining. I am stating a reality. One that doesn’t get stated too often because we all are too busy posting the good parts of our lives on social media and even more so on blogs. Blogging takes everything to a whole different level because the sometimes sad traveler doesn’t sell as well. You want to hear about the awesome, taste the deliciousness, and find inspiration for your own travels. And that’s why I love travel too. Life of a full-time or nearly full-time traveler has many of those moments, and I plan to keep sharing them with you!
Don’t forget though, I’m a person too. I have my ups and downs. Every lifestyle has their own, and we all choose the one that will work the best for us for one reason or another. And it’s awesome that it’s not all the same — because life sure would be boring if it were!
I wrote the majority of this post on a plane headed to India. Definitely an ‘up’ moment where I was reflecting on the more ‘down’ moments and why it is worthwhile to push through them. Since then, even though it’s only been a week, there have been many ups and downs while exploring India, a country that, so far, I absolutely love.
I know that my lifestyle of choice, just like anyone’s, will continue to have it’s ups and downs, but that’s no reason to stop striving to make your life the best life that it can be! So, here’s to chasing our dreams, through the highs and the lows. Here’s to letting the highs keep us going, even though the lows. We won’t ever look back on chasing our dreams and regret it, but we surely will look back and regret not giving it a try. Here’s to living the life we want to live.
Awww, she’s growing up.
Just a bit though 🙂
Caroline,
What a thoughtful post. As readers, it’s easy to get caught up in the allure of your lifestyle which is a far cry from what many of us live. It was interesting to hear about the darker side of this life and how it impacts you. It definitely has a down side but like everything in life, it’s how you look at things. Enjoy your travels as long as it works for you.
Thanks for the comment Susanne. It can be easy to share all of the good things about travel without sharing all the things I give up in order to have this lifestyle. I definitely love it and don’t plan on changing much lifestyle-wise anytime soon, but I hope to give a more well rounded view on what it’s like to travel very frequently and also how I am able to do it – financially, emotionally, and physically.
[…] Here’s to chasing our dreams by Caroline Lupini. Well, this hit a cord, reminded me of my own rants but in a much more kind and gentle way. I feel like this sometimes around here when I bust my ass to bring you a value added and entertaining blog and then I look at the actual support I get and wonder “WTF is wrong with me!”. Thankfully, I do not need this to eat. But “making it” is extremely difficult in this online space and requires incredible challenges in your ethical thresholds. I just hope so many of you wannabee Titan bloggers will not keep on struggling only to realize years later that your much more marketable skills have been neglected to such nth degree that your available choices then are just not very good. […]
They say folks regret the things they don’t do more than they things they do. Chase away!
That’s what I hear too!
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1. You will lose only what you cling to.
2. Mind always looks for what’s not our’s
3. When you have nothing to lose, everything become yours
4. Calm the mind and you will conquer the world.
Very wise, BlackHill. Thanks for the comment!
Congrats! It will all be worth it. Life’s too short! 🙂
Totally agree. Congrats on your decision to move to Texas too!
The clue is balance Caroline…and there is a poem (Original in Spanish) that I think has another clue. It is from the Cuban Mirtha Aguirre. Ill translate it for you at the end.
Soledad (Mirta Aguirre)
¿Habéis tenido, alguna vez,
Una estrella en la palma de la mano?
¡Ah la estrella, la estrella!
Que síntesis de anhelo y de ternura,
Que tenaces insomnios,
Que vender alma y sangre por su beso.
Y después, ahí esta:
Una estrella en la palma de la mano.
Y nada más.
Como no sea encontrar a quien dársela.
Loneliness (Mirta Aguirre)
Have you ever had,
A star in the palm of your hand?
Ah the star… the star!
What a synthesis of longing and tenderness,
That stubborn insomnia,
To sell your soul and blood for its kiss.
And then, there it is:
A star in the palm of your hand and nothing more.
Unless you find somebody to give it to.
That’s beautiful, Ricardo. Thank you for sharing.
Boy can I relate. Thanks so much for writing this thoughtful post. Hope we can see eachother again before too long, friend!
I hope so too, Carrie! I’ll be stateside for a few months, I think, so let me know if your travels bring you home at all. Otherwise I’ll be on the move again next summer with very flexible plans.